My sister is 33 years old and has no husband.
She has three kids, and each one has a different father.
I watch them for free four times a week because she works a lot.
My 5-year-old nephew came up to me the other day and said, “Auntie, I saw Mommy hiding your shiny money box under the couch.” I was shocked.
At first, I laughed. I figured he was just playing around or getting things muddled up, like kids do. But I stopped for a second because his little face looked so serious.
The only thing that could be in that “shiny money box” was the old-fashioned cash tin I kept in the back of my closet. I had been saving for a used car for more than a year by putting twenty dollars here and fifty dollars there. No one else knew where it was. I hadn’t even thought about it in months.
When the kids went to sleep, I went right to my room. The closet door creaked open, like if it were trying to warn me. My heart dropped. There was no longer a box.
I texted my sister:
“Hey, did you take something out of my room?” I asked. That little silver box?
“What box?” she asked. I don’t understand what you mean.
Me: “The one in my closet.” It’s not there.
She said, “I don’t know.” Could it be that the kids got into it?
I didn’t push. Not yet. But I knew she was being honest.
I started to pay more attention. When she dropped off the kids again, she had a new Michael Kors bag. I didn’t judge her; it may have been fake or she could have received a fantastic deal. But I noticed that her nails were done, her hair was neatly braided with extensions, and she stated in passing that she was “finally catching up” and “had a little extra to breathe.”
I ate peanut butter sandwiches to stretch my grocery money.
I decided to add up my losses. I looked at the spreadsheet where I kept track of the money I put in that tin. How much did you put away? $3,420. Gone.
I wanted to scream. But I didn’t want to penalize the kids for what their mother did. The youngest was the nicest.
Then something happened that I wasn’t ready for.
My sister usually picked up my niece from daycare, but I did it a week later. One of the staff pulled me away.
“Thanks for paying that bill late,” she said.
I blinked. “Sorry?”
“Last month’s $600. Your sister told me that you helped her.
No, I didn’t.
Three weeks ago, when I last counted it, I had almost exactly $600 in the tin.
I told my sister to come over that night. Only us, no kids. She thought about it and then said sure. I made tea to keep things calm.
“I’ll ask you one time,” I said in a calm voice. “Did you take my box of money?”
She didn’t say no. She breathed out and said, “I needed help, okay?”
I waited.
She began her usual speech. Deadbeat dads, bills piling up, too much on her mind, and no one to help her. I already knew everything. That’s why I took care of her kids for free four days a week.
“But you didn’t ask me,” I said. “You took from me.”
She stared at the floor. “I was going to pay it back.”
“Did you buy that purse before or after?”
She squeezed her lips together. “You think I don’t deserve anything good? Every day, I injured my back.
I don’t know what I wanted. It might be guilt. Maybe regret. I was angry instead.
“I wasn’t going to say anything,” I said, “but now it’s more than just the money.” You’re saying things that aren’t true about me. “Did I tell the daycare I paid?”
“That wasn’t a lie.” You did pay, in a way.
I couldn’t believe it.
She left angry that night. Shut the door forcefully. They didn’t say thanks for the tea.
There were a few days that passed by. I didn’t keep an eye on the youngsters. Not checked in. The silence didn’t last long.
She sent a bunch of texts that said, “I’m sorry.” I was afraid. I didn’t expect you would notice it. “I was in a lot of trouble.”
“I didn’t mean to lie. I just didn’t want to ask for help again. Can we move forward from this? The kids want to see you.
I was torn. I missed the kids too. But I also knew that aiding her wasn’t the right thing to do.
I made a choice, then. I said immediately away that I needed a break. Not forever, but for a while. She wasn’t happy, but she didn’t say anything.
Two weeks later, one of her exes called me. Her middle child is Dario’s son.
We had only met twice. But what he said made me stop in my tracks.
He continued, “I don’t want to get in the middle, but she told me you were taking her to court for lying about child support?”
“What?”
“Yes,” he said. “She said you saw some papers and were going to hurt her.” Honestly, I didn’t believe it was true. She is not telling the truth.
It felt like my blood was freezing. She was using me as a shield once more. What this time?
That’s when I knew she wasn’t just taking my things. She used my name to keep herself safe. For bills, lies, and problems I didn’t even know about.
And people were starting to call me.
I did something I never thought I would do. I sat down and wrote a letter. I sent it in the mail. Written by hand.
It went to my niece and nephew.
A simple note: “I love you a lot.” Auntie needs some time to herself right now, but I’m always here for you. “Don’t ever think this is your fault.”
I placed a little pack of stickers in each one. Something small but important.
That week, I also got a part-time work as a tutor after school. One of the kids I helped told his mom about me, and she offered to pay me to educate both of her sons.
I didn’t have much money, but I was starting to feel calm again, which I hadn’t felt in a long.
Suddenly, my sister was at my door.
She looked exhausted. The eyes are puffy. No makeup, no lashes, and a shawl around her hair.
“I messed up,” she said gently.
I didn’t say anything.
“I got a note. Someone told on me for saying I paid for childcare when I didn’t. “They’re going through my books.”
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She sat down and started to cry. Not crying loudly or dramatically. Tears that are calm and flat.
“I used your name because I thought they would believe me if I had someone stable on my side,” she replied in a quiet voice. “You’ve always been the good one.” The one that is safe.
That pained me more than the cash.
She finally spoke the truth: to keep her life in order, she had lied to a lot of people, including different parents, daycare workers, and even her church group. It was extremely hefty and was about to fall apart.
“I want to change,” she said. “I just don’t know how to get there without telling a lie.”
It wasn’t a sorry. Not really. But it was the closest I had ever been.
So I let her try.
We sat down and wrote up a plan that weekend. Make a plan for your money. Searching for a job. Support groups. A group in her region helped her find a free financial counseling program.
I said I would help with the kids again, but only twice a week. No more hiding for her. She wasn’t allowed to come inside my room.
It took a long time to get trust again. Not really. But something big began to take form.
After two months, she sold that Michael Kors bag. They handed me $200 back. Said that more would come.
The money didn’t matter anymore. It was about her being in charge.
That October, she got a part-time job with a city program that helped older people get around. Ironically, bringing them to their appointments. Hours that don’t change. Pay on time every time.
One of the seniors gave her an old Honda that was in horrible shape as a thank-you.
“I think someone up there is giving me a second chance,” she said.
They might have been.
Today isn’t a perfect day. We still argue. She still gets mad. I still feel like I need to keep myself safe. But today, as I watch the kids, they bring me crayon drawings that say, “Thank you, Auntie.”
Last week, her oldest child, who is now 8, handed me a note that said, “Mom’s trying really hard.” I can see it.
That made me cry in my car.
People can change. But they have to want it and feel safe admitting they were wrong.
I used to think setting limitations was nasty. But sometimes, loving someone means letting them figure things out on their own.
And what if they do? You’ll know when it’s time to walk with them again.
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