She claims that it makes no difference to her whether they are the child’s grandfather, uncle, or cousin.
Online discussion has been triggered by a mother named Aubrey’s statement that she would not leave her daughter alone with a male relative.
The mother of two, who goes by the handle @theorganicmami on TikTok, expressed her contentious viewpoint.
The young mother discussed the “controversial” ways she is raising her daughter as a first-time mother in a GRWT (Get Ready With Me) video.
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“Not even with relatives, no sleepovers. And a man will never leave her alone. She starts the video by saying, “I don’t care if you’re the grandparent, the uncle, or the cousin.”
She continues by saying that she will treat a daughter in the same manner as she would a son.
For example, she says, “I’m going to treat them both the same by letting my son go out late but not my daughter because it’s too dangerous for a woman.”
Additionally, Aubrey stated that her children will be unable to hide anything from her and her spouse.
“Your parents won’t be kept in the dark. The easiest way to never see us again, she says in the film, is if you’re among those who say, “I’ll give you candy when your mum isn’t here, just don’t tell her.”
For the grownups who will be around her daughter, she also has restrictions.
In the video, she states, “She doesn’t have to sit on your lap, kiss you, or give you a hug just because you asked her to and because you’re a relative and haven’t seen her in a long time.”
“As a child, she will still have opinions and emotions, and she is allowed to feel a certain way. She doesn’t have to respect you if you don’t respect her.”
Before using Western medication, Aubrey also intends to teach her daughter and experiment with holistic approaches to treatment.
In the video, she says, “We’re not going to have a public school system that makes you sit at a desk for eight hours and not learn anything you really care about.”
“I am teaching her to stand up for herself, set boundaries, and say no,” she went on.
In addition, Aubrey claims to be teaching her kid that she can always confide in her and that she never needs to keep anything from her.
There were differing opinions in the comments. Some believed that by denying her daughter sleepovers, she was depriving her of memories of her early years.
“Will she never be permitted to stay over with her friends? Don’t judge. One user said, “Just those were some of my best childhood memories.”
“I don’t see the harm in sleepovers, if you know the parents and the child; they’re honestly some of my best memories,” another person said.
Others, however, commended the young mother for prioritizing her daughter.
“I experienced so many things during a sleepover when I was a kid! “Good for you, mama,” someone said.
“I used to get so mad at my mum for not letting me go to sleepovers,” someone else said in the comment. But now that I’m a mother, I get it.
According to a third, as a child, I was compelled to accept kisses, hugs, and sitting on the laps of male family members and friends. I was traumatized by it, and it was “cute.”