Last year, on a quiet afternoon at home, I was cleaning out my daughter’s closet and getting rid of clothes that were too small for her. Many parents do this: they smile at the memories as they hold up little dresses and blouses and then gently place them in a pile to give away. It wasn’t just clothes; it was a part of who we were. She wore the small overalls to the park, didn’t take off her pajamas in the morning, and danced in the sundress for hours. But she had grown up like all kids do, and it was time to let her go. I chose to give them away so that another little girl who needed them may use them again.
I put up a short ad on the internet saying I was giving away some toddler clothes that had been worn but were still in good shape. They were for a girl who was two or three years old. A woman wrote me a private message within a day or two. What she said was nice, polite, and true. She said that things weren’t going well for her right now. She told me that her daughter didn’t have a lot of clothes that fit. She didn’t say much, but the way she wrote made it evident that this wasn’t just about clothes. This was about a parent who was having a hard time taking care of her child and everything else at the same time.
She said to send her the clothes since she couldn’t pick them up or didn’t have time to come get them. I have to admit that I wasn’t sure at first. I had never met her before. She lived somewhere else, and there are a lot of stories online about people who took advantage of great offers. I pondered over her message for a long time before I decided whether or not to reply. Then I thought about how hard it must be to trust that security should mesh.
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I spent my time putting everything in the box, washing and folding each piece. I also gave him a small gift: a teddy bunny that my son had never liked but was in great shape. I wrote her a note by hand to let her know I was thinking about her and her daughter and that I hoped things would get better soon. I paid for shipping and sent the box on its way, without expecting anything in return.
Weeks went by. Then it turned into months. Things became busy again, which happens a lot. The memory of the box faded. It would come back to me every now and again, usually in the middle of the night, and I would worry about if it had ever gotten there. I was a little afraid that I had been fooled, but I always came to the same conclusion: it didn’t matter. If there was even a small chance that the girl would get something warm to wear, the gift was worth buying.
More than a year later, a package appeared at my door. I didn’t expect anything at all. I didn’t ask for anything. I didn’t know where to send it back to. There was a note and some printed pictures inside that I will never forget. The same woman had written to me months previously. Her writing was tidy but a little wobbly, like someone who had taken their time to make sure the phrases were perfect.
She said that when she got my package, she cried. She and her daughter were living in temporary housing and having trouble making ends meet at the time. The garments came on time. She was thrilled to watch how her daughter react when she put on the clothes. She noted that the silky pajamas were quite comfortable and that her daughter loved the cute bunny, which had become her favorite sleep friend.
She shared images of her child that showed her smiling, playing, and full of life. I recall folding the red sweater she had on in one of them. My daughter wore the same polka-dot dress to her third birthday party that she did in another picture. Her mother said that the clothes not only kept her child warm, but they also made her feel cherished, cared for, and significant. The gesture made her feel like she wasn’t completely alone in the world, even when things were horrible.
I felt a lot of various feelings while I read the letter, like thankfulness, humility, and awe. I hadn’t done anything strange. I had just decided to be kind, trust someone, and agree. But that was really significant to her.
That package is now one of the most valuable items I own. I put the letter and the pictures in a box of memories and look at them every once in a while to remember what really matters. That event showed me that even small things we do, like giving someone a box of clothes, writing them a note, or trusting them for a short time, can have effects that we may never fully comprehend.
It made me remember that you don’t always need proof of kindness. You don’t always have to do something; sometimes all you have to do is trust and let things happen. And every now and then, kindness comes back to you in the form of a thank-you, a hug, or a surprise.