More men than ever are becoming attracted to older women, lovingly called the cougars, and the attraction is more than skin deep as a quick glance will reveal. The nature of these relationships is usually an amalgamation of maturity, clarity and excitement which can not always be provided by younger partners. To most of the men, there is more than age gap factor; it is the life stage, the mindset, and the chemistry associated with that.
Independence is one of the greatest attractions. Older women are independent both emotionally and financially. They have created their own life, career and self-confidence and they do not want to be taken care of and/or play any games. This may be cool to younger men. They do not have to impress with their glamorous moves or quasi-24/7 focus- it is the sincerity and mutual understanding. It is a big relief not to encounter the drama or emotional neediness that other less mature relationships might imply.
Another attractor is experience; whether real-life experience or bedroom experience. Most mature women also possess the emotional intelligence and sexually confident self that younger partners are yet to acquire. They already know what they like, they are clear in their communication and usually more experimental and open-minded. To younger men, this would result in a more gratifying and comfortable relationship on an emotional level and on a physical level.
The pressure of long term commitment is also usually less. Not all the older women fall in love and want to marry and create a family they usually already have such a family. Relationship that is not burdened in the future expectations would have opportunity to be more oriented towards companionship, funs and sharing without having to look at the future. It leaves room to be honest and in the moment as opposed to the markers of relationships.
Younger men also love the fact that this kind of relationships are low-maintenance. Senior women are normally straight forward in their demands. They do not depend on passive aggressive communication and unreasonable emotional needs. They do not want much of their time wasted and this gives them a more gracious and clean-cut relationship.
Also, older women tend to bring life experience and networks to the job, which may turn out of use to their advantage. Be it guidance, mentorship or contacts, these relationships provide these men doors that they would never have knocked on; both in their lives as well as in their careers.
And despite the fact that not every older woman is a so-called sugar mama, it is not so unusual when she spends money on her younger partner bringing her pleasant gifts, inviting to X dinners, visiting Y trips. It is not transactional it is appreciation. She appreciates his energy, his attention and his presence and does not hesitate to show it.
Although quite a lot of them are temporary or more informal, that does not reduce their importance. On both sides they can be extremely important, respectful and entertaining. Whether you are talking about mutual development, enjoyment, or just living life without stress on top of it, dating an older woman can be a fulfilling experience that will definitely leave an impression.